People tend to be position-centered because they want prestige, power, fame, and money. Nothing bad among these but there’s a problem of wrong motivation. If you are doing it for the wrong reasons, Minda Zetlin said that you’ll never really succeed in inspiring people; because it’s less fun than it looks. Why? Because it’s just a vacuum up there!
I believe that everyone wants to be up there because it’s expected by the society. Many people struggle to reach up there. But what is really up there that people wanted so much? People think that the title and responsibilities are perceived as being cool and a measure of popularity. A wrong perception that being up there means you are not a part of the trend or you don’t belong. Hence, people can be easily fall into the habit of focusing on himself/herself instead of others.
People struggling to be up there with wrong motivations will bring nowhere…or as what I have said, they’ll just find that up there is such a vacuum. This may be in close relation to what King Solomon said that everything is meaningless.
In this sophisticated world, people tend to be your friends; but this is a tool for getting what they want. Hence, don’t assume that they are overly concerned with your friendship because wrong Motive (RM) people view friends as tools for getting what they want. Some hide their insecurities behind a cloak of success.
As what Casey Imafidon said, “The truth is that no matter what sort of success they have, they will always feel inadequate internally. They may appear successful or confident based on appearances and external achievement, but internally, they fear relating to self-esteem. Others hide who they are by presenting the best and most captivating part of their personality to people. They don’t want people to see the hidden elements that make them feel secretly insecure. This can lead to them coming across as pretentious and them failing to be vulnerable in relationships.” They are extremely selfish. They help expecting anything in return.
Wrong motivated people dragging themselves to be up there have the feeling of indispensability. They feel so important and better than every other person. Instead of appreciating constructive criticism, they use it as a weapon to devalue others.
Moreover, people wanting to be up there think they are superior to others. They are so consumed by their own world and self-image. Some of them try to protect their flaws and image with everything they’ve got. They don’t see the big picture. They think the world is just about them because they think they are great. They are focused on all the wrongs the world has done to them, never accepting any responsibility.
If you think that you are one of these, it’s not yet late to check yourself. If you know someone like this, it’s your accountability to communicate what you know!
Let me end by quoting Galatians (6:3-5) For if anyone thinks himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For each one shall bear his own load. Let him who is taught the word share in all good things with him who teaches.
By Mary Grace D. Payad